Dancing is not my forte. In fact, if you had asked me a few months ago, I would venture to say that I'm a bad dancer with no rhythm.
However, I think ballroom dancing is a good life skill and since I'm a Texan and all, I needed to learn how to two-step. The first time I went, I was extremely nervous and convinced that it was going to be a long and difficult process that would likely end in mediocrity at best.
Well, low and behold, after I relaxed into the process and found a good teacher, guess what? I can do it! I am a beginner but the best part about starting from zero is that the learning curve is steep and progress is fast (and powerful, remember?).
I realized that I can learn how to dance and someday I will stop counting steps and it will be effortless.
There was a similar moment in my Financial Peace University class this week when a woman spoke up and told the class, "I always thought good money management was a trait that some people were born with. I thought I was just not one of those people. I am realizing now that I can be one of those people, and that's so empowering."
That comment totally made my week.
I identify myself as someone who loves to be fit and healthy and is good at managing money. I used to identify myself as someone who can't dance. Now, I see myself as someone who hasn't learned how to dance YET. I believe in my ability to learn.
How empowering is it to think that you can learn how to be healthy and fit? It is not a special designation that is merely reserved for "those people" who are good at it. You WILL get to the point where you stop counting or over-thinking and it will be effortless.
We need to start identifying ourselves as people who simply haven't learned YET. If you tried to get healthy or lose fat and it didn't work, that just means you haven't found the right method or teacher.
Believe in your ability to learn and change your mindset around your health identity.
You are not doomed to be overweight forever, just as I am not doomed to be a bad dancer.