On Turning 30
I thought 30 would feel different.
Ten years ago, I thought I would be "a real-life adult" with a husband, house, and kid(s).
Five years ago, I thought I would have my own thriving health & fitness business with location independence.
Two and a half years ago, I thought I’d be retired on the beach.
As I stare down my 30th birthday, I face a different reality.
On one hand, I am actually a "real life adult" who gets my oil changed, votes, and goes to the dentist every six months under my own volition. On the other, I don’t have my own family and I’m in the process of moving in with my parents for a month. I work for someone else’s company and don’t have a business plan (at the moment).
I found out that my Dad really struggled with turning 30. I’m glad I didn’t know that until last night, because it didn’t really occur to me to struggle with it. Yes, my life looks wildly different from what I expected ten years ago, but I don’t think that’s necessarily good or bad. It’s just a fact.
As I sit here today, I’m incredibly grateful for what I do have in my life as a 30-year-old. I have more amazing friends (all over the country) than I thought was possible for a fairly quiet, introvert. I have a role that suits me perfectly, in a company that stretches me professionally and affords me the ability to pursue my hobbies and live where I want (just not on an island). I have a healthy body which allows me to run, play tennis, ski, and kiteboard. And holy cow… I can kiteboard?!
They say you find yourself in your 20’s. I definitely did that, and maybe swung a little too far in the “this is who I am, deal with with it” direction. The great news is that I have people in my life who will tell me that with love. That’s a pretty amazing thing to find in your 20’s, too.
All that to say, I’m really, really excited for what my 30’s will hold. I have a lot of growth ahead of me - like leaning into emotional vulnerability and being a kinder, softer person to name a few. There will be big leaps personally and professionally, and plenty of changes I didn’t see coming.
Many of those original expectations, wishes and dreams still hold true, but I also have so many more to add to the list. I’ve set some pretty lofty goals for the next one, five and ten years and I’ll approach them the same way - as hopes, dreams, and visions but not as a measure of my self-worth.
Five or ten years ago, what did you think your life would look like today? Do your best to not place a value judgement on the answer.
Do you have goals and a vision for the next five to ten? If yes, are they written down? When is the last time you looked at them?
If not, I challenge you to think about it today.
I’ll write a post about how to map out your vision, set long term, larger goals and how to break them down into actionable steps.
We’re not going there today.
Today I’m just feeling reflective and so very grateful.
Thanks for being here and encouraging me. Do me a birthday favor - reflect and dream today. We’ll meet back here to go about pursuing those dreams. But first, I have some gluten-free, non-dairy birthday cake to eat… like I said, I found myself.